Let's Talk About Sex (after) Baby

I have been reading a lot on some breastfeeding/parenting forums that I follow about how after a baby enters the picture Mommy & Daddy find it hard to relight that old flame (sex).  If you're feeling this way...you're not the only one.

Having a baby changes everything.  You've heard this old saying I'm sure, and it really is true.  It will change your life forever- for the better.  You have absolutely no idea how hard you're gonna fall in love with your baby the first time you look into their beautiful little eyes, and you'll fall again the first time they smile, when they start to coo, when they set up by themselves, and pretty much any other milestone and not milestone that they meet.  That being said, when the new baby comes you can be a bit overwhelmed with the changes in your body, caring and bonding with your sweet little one, and worrying about how filthy your house is (which really should NOT be a concern at the time lol) that we may forget to feed the flame between you and your spouse.  Yes the Dr says no hanky panky for 6 weeks, and you really should follow those instructions.  Delivering a baby (vaginally or via c-section) can wreak havoc on a woman's body, but that doesn't mean that you can't connect with your partner in other ways.  The most important foundation of a relationship is communication.  It really is.  Your husband could be overwhelmed as well, and it's important for you both to address how your feeling.  It can be a relief just knowing your both on the same page.  My husband and I didn't have much time alone after each of our babies were born, and even now with an infant we don't have much time for intimacy, but we still find time (even if it's just 2 minutes) to talk about each others days.  We also hug as soon as my hubby comes home from work.  I don't mean just a hey how ya doin hug, I mean an intimate, close your eyes, breathe each other in, I love you so much, and if we could "push the beds together tonight" we should do it kind of hug lol.  My hubby and I also love reminiscing about fun times in the early days of our relationship.  We love talking about special trips we took, fun date nights, and our favorite story is when we first told each other we were in love.  Talking about these things brings back the same feelings we felt during our courtship.  This "kindling" can eventually lead to the kind of intimacy that makes you man and wife.  I would say don't worry about rushing the situation.  It's important to take your time reconnecting.  Think of it as courting again, and just take it one day at a time.  Eventually the flame will come back between the two of you.  Xoxo